When I was a kid, I wanted a “bubble” themed birthday party. We got bubble wrap and bubbles you could blow and…well, I guess that’s kind of it as far as the “theme” went. But still, awesome, no?
And then there is the time that my brother and I officially went to war. We have this really badass picture of us in armor. Yes, ARMOR. We went to town on a cardboard box and lo! emerged with shields and swords.
His shield was teeny tiny bit more badassical than mine. For some reason I heard about the “War of the Roses” and thought it sounded really awesome so I drew two roses having a battle on my shield except it hindsight it looks less like a battle and more like two roses in an “X” pattern. Maybe if they’d been dripping blood? I’m sure the purple background didn’t help. (Shut up, I thought it looked “regal”.)
Anyway, like I said, Sean’s all black shield + lightening bolt just screamed “I will melt your face off; behold my might!”
Where was I going with this?
Oh, YES. People who think I will be the worst parent ever because I don’t want my kids to have a bunch of toys. (I set the limit at 5 but, for the record, books do not count as toys. And legos count as one toy. And paint and paper and chalk are just supplies…you get the drift, yes?)
While I understand that no one ever parents exactly the way they think they will, I’m pretty firm on this toy thing. (I know kids who have a room just for their toys. A whole room!)
I mean, I made my own dolls out of palm fronds and sticks. I loved to read. (And could actually sit down to read a whole book! For fun!) And I almost constantly had a fort.
Like how I used to talk Sean into taking the top bunk. (He was SUCH a sucker for reverse psychology except that was the only way I could get anything because he’d pitch such a fit and dad would give him whatever he wanted except the only stuff he ever wanted was what I wanted and can you feel my pain here, people?)
So after I talked him into the top bunk, I would flip the blankets over the side and create my own little space of awesome.
Or the time I spent the night before St. Patrick’s Day rigging my Leprechaun Trap. You can imagine how sad I was when the box slammed shut in the middle of the night and I jumped out of bad only to discover nothing and concluded that either (1) Leprechauns are invisible or (2) they are really freaking fast. (The jury is still out.)
Plus we lived with our father and our mother was super far away (Texas) and so she used to read us bedtime stories. Well, she’d read them while her tape player was recording and then send us the tapes. We WORE THOSE TAPES OUT.
My point?
Childhood need not be supplied with plastic toys from China to be magical. I mean, it isn’t like there was NO magic to be found but thank God for cheap child labor in Asia so that American kids could FINALLY experience what childhood was always SUPPOSED to be like.
Conclusion?
LESS TOYS, MORE BOXES.





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July 9, 2009 at 7:51 pm
lotsofopinions
I love your 5 toy rule! Maybe one day I will have the courage to implement that. For now, I limit the number of toys in my 4yo’s room (a revolutionary concept) and rarely acquire new toys.
hayden tompkins says:
What about rotating toys? So, it would be only 5 toys out at a time instead of 5 toys total? Regardless, great job at reigning in the toy madness!
July 10, 2009 at 2:40 am
janice
Your biggest problems may be with friends and relatives, I fear. You’ll have to be very, VERY firm with everyone for this to work.
hayden tompkins says:
I can only imagine!
July 10, 2009 at 1:51 pm
positivelypresent
This is great! Less toys, more boxes! I’m using this idea for my dog, Bella. She has TONS of toys and this weekend I’m gathering them up, picking out a few of her favorites, and sending the rest to Teeny’s Friends, an organization that collects dog toys for dogs in need.
hayden tompkins says:
Oh, Bella is gonna haaaate me! She’ll be happy, I think, as long as you love on her.
July 10, 2009 at 2:03 pm
connie
my children always enjoyed a variety of art supplies and “creative” type objects. I have a strong Montessori background and believe in implementing “real” into play. The girls thrived! My grandson is more interested in non toys (he’s almost 5) He creates spiderwebs from my yarn…A marble is the “world”
As to an overabundance of gifts…some can be donated…rotate the toys they have…too much = a mess on the floor that no one plays with.
hayden tompkins says:
Rotation!! You’re genius.
P.S. Montessori?
July 11, 2009 at 11:35 am
dreemwhrld
Montessori = AWESOME school. Both my sisters went to a Montessori preschool. I – did not.
But. I digress. I spent the last week with four of my cousins (all in the same family) ages 7, 5, 13months, and 10 months. And their favorite toys? The 7 year old liked the Tower of Hanoi (see google for more details). The 5 year old liked the 504 piece puzzle (yeah. I know. she’s mad crazy smart). And the two little ones loved the ‘bag-o-rags’. I had been cutting up jeans to use for a quilt my mom was making, and had strips of all the seams up the sides of the legs. A bag of them. And that was the babies’ favorite toy. These kept the kids occupied in the house for a week.
hayden tompkins says:
I guess the whole world is a toy when you are young!
July 14, 2009 at 4:43 pm
curlywurlygurly
i understand where you’re coming from–my nephew has a million toys–but it’s difficult to tell other people not to buy things for your child. instead of sounding like a gestapo, simply accept gifts graciously and then donate or rotate toys for your kids.
we did lots with cardboard boxes in my day too.
hayden tompkins says:
You sound like Dear Abby!
(I love her, btw.)
July 15, 2009 at 3:02 am
dreemwhrld
Christina Katerina and the Box!!
hayden tompkins says:
July 17, 2009 at 12:04 pm
Kool Aid
Toys are the bane of my existence right now. They are EVERYWHERE! I wish I had started the 5 toy rule myself, but it’s too late.
I will say this: at Christmas, Santa only brings 3 toys, since that’s how many gifts Baby Jesus got. Mom and Daddy bring the rest (and it’s still too many. Ugh) but it forces me to limit what they get.
hayden tompkins says:
“If it’s good enough for Baby Jesus, it’s good enough for you!”
I can’t WAIT to use that line with our kids!! You’re a genius. Actually, my father distracted us with “treats” so we never had a huge amount of toys. Our stockings were chock-full with “breakfast” and that was half the joy right there. Even to this day I have a very fond place in my heart for corned beef hash and I always put a tangerine in the toe of our stockings because that is what he did.