We have a love/hate relationship with resolutions.
On the one hand, we feel like we are infinitely more productive and well on our way to accomplishing our dreams with what amounts to a “To Do” list.
(Personally, I luuuurve being organized. I have lists for everything!)

On the other hand, after the initial blush of optimism has worn off, our beautiful resolutions look rather intimidating and chore-like. Our enthusiasm for our resolutions has a shelf life of about a month.
So resolutions are out.
Now what?

Get yourself a theme!
WordPress has ‘em, interior decor has it, and you can have one too!
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2008: Engage
Last year I chose ‘engage’, as in I wanted to more fully engage my life.

In 2008, I quit my career path of a decade and cut off all my hair and went on an insane meditation retreat and bought the Love Bungalow and radically reorganized my finances so I could cease being a slave to a paycheck and instead do what I love. I also got rid of my car and got a sassy retro bike instead.
More importantly, I finally- fully – forgave my father which is a frustrating path which has taken the better part of my life.
So, though I chose ‘engage’ with the intention of more fully engaging my life, I ended up more fully engaging myself – authentically and honestly.
2009: Discipline
Night Writer recently wrote a fascinating article about how America’s lack of self-discipline is what has lead us to the obesity and credit crises.
In it, he states “Self-government is the highest and purest form of government.”
And I finally realized the truth about change, about power. Change is not a simple declaration, and power is not contained in a title. Mastery can only stem from self-mastery. Command can only stem from self-command. Discipline can only stem from self-discipline.
Gandhi said that we must be the change we want to see in the world. Anyone who has tried to make sustainable changes in their own lives can attest: change is not easy.
The foundation of purpose-driven change is discipline.
And so, in 2009, my theme is “discipline”. What’s yours?






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December 31, 2008 at 6:51 pm
novice101
Hey Hayden,
My theme for 2009 is also ‘Discipline’ – to Discipline Myself to Remember to be Grateful on a Daily Basis.
Happy New Year!
http://novice101.wordpress.com/2008/12/31/a-brand-new-year-start-of-fresh-new-hopes/
hayden tompkins says:
That is awesome! And Gratitude is such a powerful way to celebrate your life!
December 31, 2008 at 7:22 pm
Jennie
Discipline sounds like a really good theme for me to adopt over the next year – I may have to borrow that. Here’s to a happy, healthy and productive 2009!
hayden tompkins says:
Happy New Year!
You should absolutely rock Discipline! It’s amazing how one simple thing can enhance every goal and aspiration we have for ourselves.
December 31, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Connie
Happy New Year Hayden!!!! I still do the word of the year thing (have for about two or three years)
hayden tompkins says:
I know. I am so grateful to you and Marlajayne for showing me a different way to do New Year’s! I just love ‘courage’.
December 31, 2008 at 8:58 pm
mssc54
2009… simply divine!
Hey I noticed you took your pic doing push ups before you cut your hair! haha
I made a resolution last year not to make any more resolutions. So far so good.
hayden tompkins says:
Haha!
December 31, 2008 at 11:27 pm
Squawkfox
I have two words for 2009: ROAD BIKE
It’s been nearly 3 years since I could ride due to several misdiagnosis of my knee thing injury. My road bike is where I spend hours on end meditating. Losing this source of release has been difficult for me. After a long road of recovery and self reflection, I’M BACK!
hayden tompkins says:
You. Go. Girl.
I’m not a road bike person (being busty) but it KILLED me to not have a bike for several years. I am so glad that you are healthy and primed for action.
P.S. If that picture in your last post was you, you are GORGEOUS! Just saying.
January 1, 2009 at 12:45 pm
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January 1, 2009 at 4:08 pm
Night Writer
Wow, only a few hours into the new year and I can scratch “Get a link from Through the Illusion” off my list!
hayden tompkins says:
HAR.
January 2, 2009 at 12:09 am
marlajayne
Peace…that’s my theme. I’m already pretty disciplined. Really, I am. Although I don’t think I’ve blogged about it (not sure about this), I fervently believe in the importance of “visiting” the four facets of myself everyday: physical, social/emotional, mental or intellectual, and spiritual. I got the idea from Stephen Covey, but I don’t think he’s the original thinker on it. Anyway, it takes discipline to dip into every aspect, but when I miss one or two for a day, I feel “not so nice.” Grrr.
hayden tompkins says:
Peace is an absolutely beautiful concentration for 2009.
January 2, 2009 at 4:44 pm
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January 2, 2009 at 4:49 pm
Heidi Hass Gable
Hi Hayden,
Thank you so much for your writing – this post was just what I needed!
When the student is ready, the teacher will come…
I choose discipline as well – http://www.iwasthinking.ca/2009/01/02/my-new-years-non-resolution/
Hope you have a wonderful year!
Heidi
hayden tompkins says:
It’s amazing how it really is a fundamental. I just know our New Year will rock!
January 2, 2009 at 5:05 pm
SanityFound
I hate these resolution things, I always feel like a hypocrite when I fail so I don’t even bother – instead I try to live each day being the best I can be not in competition but in spirit and soul. If I accomplish that everything else will fall into place
Well we hope so anyways lol
hayden tompkins says:
Well, so far so good. Yes?
January 2, 2009 at 5:07 pm
ianpeatey
My theme for 2009 is ’stability’.
I need to get some real ground under my feet after years of flying about and rarely staying in one place for more than a couple of weeks.
hayden tompkins says:
Sounds zen, like you are becoming the mountain.
January 3, 2009 at 7:36 am
SanityFound
Can I add “Get back my six pack” to the “be the best person I can be” or is that just hmmm lol
Yip so far so good day 3 of the rest of our lives
hayden tompkins says:
That reminds m e of a belly dancer I saw last night. She had this amazing six pack too!
January 5, 2009 at 7:06 pm
Kevin (ReturnToManliness)
Excellent Jean Luc reference. Now that guy exudes manliness. Maybe I need to do a post or two on lessons from the good Captain!!!
Happy new year!
hayden tompkins says:
That would be awesome!
January 5, 2009 at 9:54 pm
Friar
My theme for 2009
Eat. Drink beer. Sleep. Catch fish.
hayden tompkins says:
LOL! Sounds very chillax.
January 12, 2009 at 10:37 am
Amber
Peace
February 6, 2009 at 8:16 pm
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