It seems, my friends, that I am in fact living in interesting times. And it seems last Wednesday was exceptionally ‘interesting’.
Last Wednesday is the day that I quit my job.

Events converged so that I went home and told Chris that I was ready. Ready to quit my job. Ready to take the full chance on my dream. Ready to succeed and ready to fail. It was the straw event that broke the camel’s back created the visceral catalyst for change.
I spent that night trying to sleep as occasional bouts of fear and terror and adrenaline washed through my body. General ‘upset-edness’ pervaded my being. Believe me, it’s hard to think when your brain is amped up, when your ‘fight or flight’ reflexes are engaged. It’s too busy acting like a hamster on a hamster wheel.
And I’d had a rather emotionally trying day. On the one hand, I was upset that I hadn’t handled things as professionally as I had wished to, that I had been reacting out of fear the whole day. On the other hand, I was upset that I hadn’t given anyone a piece of my mind. Was I, I wondered, getting ’soft’?
As the sun crept over the horizon, I was still up, in overdrive. Scared. Exhausted. Yet sure.
And, by the way, totally oblivious. You see, I’d completely forgotten about an intention that I set. A 90 Day Challenge to quit my job and change my life. (An intention that I ’tweaked’ to 180 days out of concern for the economy.)
When I mentioned that I was actually leaving, a good friend reminded me of my 90 Day Challenge.
“Wasn’t that about 90 days ago?” she asked.
I quickly checked to see when I had ’set’ that intention. It was June 25, 2008. My last day? September 19, 2008. I pulled up my calendar and calculator. Redid the calculations to be sure.
It was 88 days exactly.
What have I learned about intention setting?
- ‘Tweaking’ didn’t have the same power as setting the intention. I don’t know if it is because I subconsciously felt like I was giving myself a useless extension or because I didn’t do it with the same deliberate intention, with the same intense emotional connection.
- Whatever the reason, I am leaving in 88 days, not in 180.
- The universe is not afraid for you. At all.
- Take great care with your ideas and the monologue of your mind. (Be careful what you wish for.)
- Don’t make commitments unless you are absolutely certain that you are willing to keep them.
- Your word can be law.
What about the future?
I have about 6 months figured out. That’s it. Will I be a success? Will I be a failure? Will I have to jump back into the rat race?
I don’t know. But I definitely know what intention I will be setting for myself!





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September 5, 2008 at 5:20 pm
Connie
The universe always says yes! You WILL be a success. Intentions are very, very powerful things!!!
hayden tompkins says:
I feel like jumping!
September 5, 2008 at 5:24 pm
Writer Dad
Bravo, Hayden. You’ll do very well. You’re smart and feisty and funny. You’re a couple of weeks ahead of us. We’re almost ready.
Have a great weekend.
hayden tompkins says:
I like being feisty!
I didn’t know you were planning on making ‘life changes’. What’s happening?
September 5, 2008 at 5:54 pm
marlajayne
Yay! I’m impressed with your courage and determination…and well, I guess I’d call it the “being true to yourself attitude.” I’m sold on the power of the mind, and I know that our thoughts and intentions are ultra powerful in directing our behavior.
What’s next?
hayden tompkins says:
I think I’ll expand on that in the next post. There is so much running through my mind right now!
September 5, 2008 at 6:13 pm
Night Writer
Well done and good luck. I look forward to hearing your ongoing reports into this bold new venture. It was movie night with the boys last night (“Ghost and the Darkness”) and we talked a lot about how courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the mastery of it; that is, being afraid but not letting it paralyze you to where you can’t do what has to be done. Fear isn’t always a roaring, man-eating lion in the dark; in fact it is most often the sibilant hiss of self-doubt from the shadows that seeks the comfort of the status quo, no matter how uncomfortable it might be. Fear is often the strongest at the crossing points, where we have the opportunity to leave good in exchange for best … getting married, having kids, changing jobs. Given the nature of our class, I used a number of biblical examples to show how everything we want of significant value is on the other side of fear. Be bold, be strong and know that you have friends!
hayden tompkins says:
Yes, friends who can write! “the sibilant hiss of self-doubt” Wow!
Thank you so much for your support and good wishes.
September 5, 2008 at 7:54 pm
SanityFound
Oh boy can you feel my hug all the way from heres? Know how scary this can be and the speed at which things run through your head but you’re trusting your gut, the universe, life if you will. Just knows you’re gonna ace it!
hayden tompkins says:
The more you tell me stuff like this, the less scary it is starting to seem!
September 5, 2008 at 9:22 pm
Laurie
I did what you are planning for. I quit my job but I planned it out. I have started my own company. I am loving it even though it is not without struggles. But I am my own boss. I have a partner who jumped in the waters with me but we both are committed to the business and committed to supporting each other. We have already laid out how we will handle it if we start to get on each others nerves. And it worked. I got on her nerves once (believe it or not) and we worked it out with a couple of simple emails.
Are you going to start your own business? I Love it! I bet you would too. Have you ever read Tom Volkaron’s blog? He talks a lot about this kind of thing.
hayden tompkins says:
Yes! You hit the nail on the head. Excuse me, I have to go find this Volkaron person. (On a side note, doesn’t he sound like he belongs in a Star Trek episode? Or is it just me, LOL!)
*Edit: Laurie, would you be so kind as to give me the address for his site? Google couldn’t find him and kept trying to convince me that his name was Tom Volkarion, except that didn’t work either!
September 5, 2008 at 10:12 pm
curlywurlygurly
wowzers…i’m in awe! i know you will find success everywhere you look. cheers to you!!!
hayden tompkins says:
September 6, 2008 at 12:02 am
mssc54
I KNEW THIS WOULD HAPPEN!!!!!
Governor Palin gives an electrifying speach and suddenly women all across America are telling their bosses “Take This Job and Shove it!” lol
“3. Take great care with your ideas and the monologue of your mind. (Be careful what you wish for.)”
Haven’t you ever heard someone say “I knew that would happen.” Their subconcious set a course to bring to pass the thing(s) they inwardly dwelled on.
Just look at Job’s story in the Bible. He had everything he wanted only to lose it. And why? Job said, “That which I have feard has come upon me.”
Plan to succeed and you will. (that’s the simple version)
PS: Since you brought it up… where did that saying “The straw that broke the camels back” come from? I mean really, have you heard of a camel ever… even once having his back broken by just one more straw?
If you see the camel beginning to secumb to the weight of that last straw, can you quickly remove it in order to save the camel back and still maximize the heaviest load possible?
Things that make me go… hmmmmm.
hayden tompkins says:
“Governor Palin gives an electrifying speach and suddenly women all across America are telling their bosses “Take This Job and Shove it!”
LMAO!! Mssc54, sometimes you are too funny!
Thank you for your insight. Now I know how important planning for success is.
September 6, 2008 at 1:09 am
thedailydish
Baby you ARE a success. Your job has nothing to do w/ it.
Whatever you do, I have no doubt that good things will follow.
Hayden, you are one amazing woman. I look forward to seeing what happens next.
Wishing you all the luck in the world. and a whole heaping helping of happiness.
xo
hayden tompkins says:
Thankyouthankyouthankyou. Maybe this is why having such supportive people around you is a good thing. Everyone starts setting their intention for your happiness. I smell a blog entry!
I can’t tell you how much your words mean to me.
September 6, 2008 at 1:51 am
vanessaleighsblog
Hayden: Good for you! Knowing yourself well enough to know when you are ready to make to step, after having put the intention out in the Universe… the Universe will always guide you and catch you even when you are scared out of your wits. I admire your courage and envy your ability to do it; I hope to also someday myself!!! Keep us posted!!!
hayden tompkins says:
It’s amazing how many people feel like this. Well, when you’re ready, let everyone know and we’ll help set the intention for your success and happiness. Truly, this is just so amazing.
September 6, 2008 at 3:40 am
Amber
Dang it Hayden… why didn’t you quit while I was there so we could have hung out! lol.
Listen honey, you have my phone number, my email… call me. Im here for you. You are awesome and you have a whole support team here for you.
You are loved and admired. You have talent, skill and drive. I believe in you and so does each and every single person that reads your blog each day.
*big hug*
hayden tompkins says:
… … Wow … … My cup runneth over.
September 6, 2008 at 5:22 pm
donstuff
Best wishes.
Loved the Lego cubicles. Do they not know how to make Lego figures smile, or was it intended to be “true to life?”
hayden tompkins says:
I can only assume that since they had such a good sense of humor, they were trying to make it ‘true to life’!
September 6, 2008 at 6:56 pm
SanityFound
“the more you tell me stuff like this, the less scary it is starting to seem!”
Lets put it this way…
We’ve got your back no matter what, whether you like it or not, we’ve got your back… and although I know I shouldn’t talk for everyone but I am sure that everyone will agree with me when I say that.
September 6, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Varmint
As Hayden’s co-worker, I’ve got all sorts of mixed emotions. I’m incredibly proud of her and am very excited that she’s making this move. But at the same time, I’m very, very sad. See, folks, you know Hayden through her blog, but I get to see her 5 days a week! She’s the one with the smile to share, the interesting factoid on a new zombie movie. She’s the one that I’ll put down my work without hesitation to chat for a few minutes.
Hayden has touched a lot of lives, and I’m glad she’s pursuing her dream to touch even more. You go, girl!!!
hayden tompkins says:
What’s the emoticon for blushing?
Thank you, Varmint, for your extremely kind words. Of course, you are one of the reasons that working there was a pleasure!
September 7, 2008 at 1:12 am
mssc54
Gosh Hayden…
It suddenly dawned on me that you won’t be able to participate on the office softball team this coming season.
Oh the tragedy of your selfish decision…
hayden tompkins says:
Tragedy, indeed! The bench will be soooo cold without me.
September 7, 2008 at 3:56 am
Laurie
http://www.delightfulwork.com
Enjoy! Tell him I sent you! :O)
September 7, 2008 at 2:23 pm
Varmint
Oh, but she can still come out and cheer. She has great nicknames for everyone!
September 9, 2008 at 2:38 pm
thedailydish
I love you Hayden – plain and simple. And my life is better for having met you.
hayden tompkins says:
Heart…melting….can’t..speak..
September 9, 2008 at 2:38 pm
thedailydish
As are those of MANY OTHERS>
So on behalf of us all, THANK YOU.
hayden tompkins says:
… … …
September 9, 2008 at 4:50 pm
Kip de Moll
Not sure how this entry got past me, but way to Go Hayden! The bolder the step, the bigger the love that comes in!
hayden tompkins says:
Ooh, then I am ready for some BIG love, because I was terrified at first.
September 10, 2008 at 6:46 am
girishmenon
Nice..
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