It seems that I have always been destined for Ubuntu.

I used to listen to my dad’s “We Are The World” record over and over again. To this day I know every line, every part, every melodic moment of that incredible song. When he got tired of listening to it, I’d put on headphones to listen until I was tired of being perpetually tethered to the stereo.
Unfortunately, I was always in the way of my Ubuntu; the I-am-because-you-are expression of being. I wanted to be special – the best, smartest, rightest. I would win debates with other people by making up the ‘facts’ as I went. I was trying to win a game I didn’t really understand.
I both admired and envied others, people who did great works. People who did all the things I wanted to do. And though I wanted to celebrate their achievements, follow their example, I myself was diminished by these accomplishments.
But no matter what that spirit of Ubuntu was always below the surface. Every time I extended myself with no thought of the cost, every time I did without so that I could give to another, every time I stood up for someone else.
The truth was always there; I am because you are. We are one. Ubuntu.

I’d have these moments of absolute connection; like I was plugged into the universe. And it was always accompanied with this overwhelming sense of love. I felt like a vessel bursting at the seams with this ego-swamping emotion. And I finally got it, finally understood what had been peeping through all of this time.
When Jesus told us to love our neighbor, love our enemy, to do unto others, it was because it was us. All of it; us. I am my neighbor. I am my enemy. Do unto others because these are not others, but are me. I am because we are. We are one.
The veil of separation had been lifted from my heart and I could finally move through the universe in a spirit of oneness. Ubuntu.
And yet, it is still a journey I take each day. We are the world, but I am only human.
Every time I mentally curse someone out on the highway, I have to come back to Ubuntu. When I lose patience with people for falling, I have to come back to Ubuntu. When I am exasperated at the irrational expression of politics in my country, I drag myself back to Ubuntu.
It is the wellspring of the universe – manna from heaven – the breath of life. It is a world in harmony.

I am because you are. Ubuntu is Love.





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September 1, 2008 at 4:50 am
froggywoogie
Congratulations Hayden. I am so honoured to be you! Universally speaking that is.
hayden tompkins says:
And I am just tickled to be so ‘quick’!
September 1, 2008 at 4:59 am
SanityFound
There is no doubt that you have ubuntu, even when it doesn’t feel like it to you, it comes out in your words, in the way you care, the way you love. Ubuntu. No amount of words that I utter will give this post any justice so I will just say
WOW and Absolutely beautiful, both you and your words, beautiful!
hayden tompkins says:
September 2, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Kip de Moll
Yes, I was reading all of these wonderful words, thinkng of the woman who in the next post is admitting to wanting to use a bazooka to get to work on time, then you speak to this reality and show the ubuntu of having feetin both worlds. The award can’t go to anyone nicer.
NOW GET OUT OF THE WAY–KERBLAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hayden tompkins says:
LOL, well this post isn’t all me. Just that morning routine. I walk in the door to some amazing people who are incredibly positive. I am beyond grateful for my immediate work group.
Be honest. You’ve never wished for a bazooka? Never?
September 4, 2008 at 11:46 am
Vanessa
Hayden: beautifully written post! The badge and meaning of Ubuntu is DEFINITELY living in you……. enjoy your journey, every day is certainly an adventure, I believe! Vanessa
hayden tompkins says:
Wow, Vanessa, thank you!
September 4, 2008 at 12:36 pm
angryafrican
So right. So beautiful. Ubuntu is in us all. It is whether we allow it to become part of us or whether we push it down with our ego. Beautifully written. Beautifully told. You told people how to “get” Ubuntu. Just let it be you. Thank you for that.
hayden tompkins says:
It’s amazing. The first time I ever heard this word was about three months ago. I love that the concept transcends culture.
September 4, 2008 at 8:00 pm
cordieb
So beautifully written my friend. Jesus could not have completed his mission without a Judah! He recognized this fact; sometimes our enemys are there to ensure we meet our purpose! And, sometimes those who show compassion, make us weaker. But in all what ever we are, we are because of all. We all are one and I am because you are! Peace, Light and Love. . . CordieB.
hayden tompkins says:
“our enemies are there to meet our purpose”
That is just perfect.
September 5, 2008 at 2:26 am
Amber
lovely…
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November 6, 2008 at 6:05 pm
Oktober Five
I’ll admit that I clicked the little picture of Ubuntu because I’m a huge fan of the linux distribution named after this really cool word: Ubuntu. However, I read this, and it’s meaning is now clearer. Seriously, this was an amazing post. It seems like everyday I read the same old thoughts, but this one dug deeper–you gave truly unique insight.
hayden tompkins says:
From my heart, thank you.