As most of you know, I came to the realization that I am ready to get ready to be a parent!

I started looking at daycare and diaper options (do you know there are flushable diaper inserts now?!), I queried the readers about how to be a better mom, and I sat down and talked about it with my husband.

Good thing too, because the #1 tip I get from every person was, “make sure your husband is on board before having children!”

I knew I couldn’t ’surprise’ him like I had done with our kittens.  (I saw a chocolate lab puppy who needed a home yesterday, and it took some major willpower to resist!)

So I ‘opened a dialogue’ with him.  Yet when were talking, I noticed a certain reticence.  Though not exactly jumping on the rah-rah-children bandwagon, he was definitely positive about having children.  I couldn’t quite put my finger on it…

So I pressed on.  I’d bring up the conversation at different times, in different ways.  I strategically would steer the conversation toward family (ergo children), budget (ergo budgeting for children), and neat advances in baby technology (ergo technology for our babies).  Still the reticence remained.

He was like a low level mafioso refusing to roll on the Boss!

Then one bright summer afternoon, I got him to spill the beans.  And boy, were those beans a complete surprise!  Apparently,  my Beloved had a five year plan.  He wanted to enjoy being married for five years before we had children.  Also unbeknownst to me, was his planning of a Hawaiian vacation to be taken during that time.

He didn’t get much complaint from me, he knows I can be bribed with chocolate and azure tropical waters, and it certainly seemed reasonable enough.  But still…a five year plan that, during our four years together, I had heard absolutely nothing about.

I can’t help but laugh sometimes.  No matter how much you talk and communicate with each other, you will never delve deep enough to expose everything.  Only the passage of time, the living of life can accomplish what years of talking fail to.