I spend lots of time discussing what it means to ‘live on purpose’, but still – in the scheme of your life – what does it actually mean?
And what does it take to live this way?
A Portrait of Purpose
I have friend that I have known since elementary school, someone with whom I feel an immediate affinity with no matter how long it’s been since we’ve seen or spoken with each other. She is a sister of my heart, I think.
And my friend, Alannah, always knew that she would be a teacher when she ‘grew up’. It wasn’t simply the fact that her parents were teachers, she was a teacher…even then. She was patient and willing to work with others towards their understanding.
Alannah attained her degree and set out, with optimistic purpose, on the road towards fulfilling this dream. In America, however, teachers are not highly regarded and ’teaching’ is often the last thing you actually do. After the bureaucratic red-tape, heaps of paperwork, abuse from parents, lack of support from administration, insular relationships with your coworkers, a laughable income - by the time you get around to teaching, there’s almost nothing of what you loved left.
Teachers are the bottom of every barrel.
With a weary heart, Alannah left teaching to get a job. The job was ok; she liked it and did well, received promotions and pay raises and the like. But Alannah had little passion for her work and was paid barely enough to cover her expenses, much less pay off the college debt she incurred trying to follow her dream.
Frustrated, she was started to get broken down by the seeming futility of her life; she couldn’t go forward or get ahead.
The Choice of Our Lifetime
This story is a reality for millions of people in this country; people who go through their lives in quiet resignation, wishing for the day they wake up and everything is completely different. It seems there is no escape, no way off the path they’ve chosen, and today’s disillusionment is tomorrow’s mid-life crisis, rage or desperation at how life has unfolded.
Did Alannah resign herself the reality of living at the razor’s edge of her budget? Did she surrender herself to the road of infinite futility? No. She made the seminal choice of her lifetime.
She couldn’t win with the rules she had and the playbook she was given, so she changed the game. Instead of striving and failing to achieve ’success’ by the metrics of our society, she created her own way.
Changing the Game
I’m sure you’re dying to know what Alannah did to solve her money problems, how she created a space where she didn’t have to be a slave to the almighty dollar, and what she did to free herself from the futility of a non-progressive existence. (Oh, and how she fulfilled her passion!)
She became a teacher…in a totally different country.
Not only is she fulfilling her passion, she is traveling the world and experiencing a completely new culture! While she resides in a country where teachers are esteemed, she is living with almost no expenses! She can devote her income to eradicating debt, (which can often be the yoke of our existence).
When Alannah let everyone, her family and friends, know that she was doing this, my heart rejoiced. For the answer to her financial issues was a return to her purpose in the penultimate example of elegant efficiency.
Living Your Purpose
I don’t know if she will return to teaching when, or if, she moves back to the states. She will, however, be less controlled, less circumscribed in her choices. She will be free to live her life as she chooses. Instead of her primary concern being a job, she can make choices based on what will fulfill her soul – not simply what will fill her bank account.
Alannah, like many of us, has multiple gifts and abilities, and a variety of passions. Having successfully pursued teaching, she may wish to fulfill a more creative passion. And, luckily for my beloved friend, she can do so with an open heart and an eye towards a future with more opportunity, more options, that she is blinded by the possibilities.
It takes courage to take a step like that into the unknown. She very well could have hated her choice for the next year. Only you can know if living an existence on a treadmill of drudgery is worth the risk of changing everything.
Because that’s what it takes to live on purpose.






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June 18, 2008 at 3:23 pm
SanityFound
Wow, I truly both admire your friends courage and the message within your words. Stepping out of the grind and into our dream can be one of the scariest things ever to be partaken but once done… phew… it’s as if a whole lot of weight falls off your proverbial shoulders, you finally feel free…
Fab post!
hayden tompkins says:
I admire what she has done so much. I only hope the article did it justice.
June 18, 2008 at 3:23 pm
summer picnic
How wonderful. Changing the game is a concept I’ll remember when faced with similar challenges. Thanks!
hayden tompkins says:
Thanks for stopping by!
June 18, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Connie
What she is doing is HUGE!!! I admire anyone that is leading an authentic, true to yourself life!!!
hayden tompkins says:
I really couldn’t believe it was going to happen until it did. It’s so out-of-the-box as to be fantastic!
June 18, 2008 at 5:31 pm
marlajayne
I love reading stories like this because they remind me that it can happen. People can follow their bliss and succeed in wildly wonderful ways. One of my little platitudes that’s come in handy on many occasions is “Bloom where you’re planted.” On occasion, I’ve found myself in situations that I couldn’t change at the moment so instead of living a life of quiet desperation, I changed what I could about it even if it was just my attitude.
hayden tompkins says:
..which is why you’ll go down in my book as one of the 10 wisest people I know!
June 19, 2008 at 12:50 pm
marlajayne
Hayden, You’re far too kind…or maybe you just don’t know me that well! by the way, I tried to respond to comments the way you suggested, and I must be missing something. When I click the person’s name, it takes me to his or her site. When I click “edit this,” it allows me to put something in the comment box after the person’s comments, but when it shows up, there’s no space between those comments and mine. Plus, I’ve noticed that your name appears in bold (hayden tompkins says), and I want that to happen. Help!
hayden tompkins says:
1. From my Dashboard, I select “Comments”.
2. My comments are listed in reverse chronological order.
3. I have the option of selecting the commenter’s ‘name’, which is how my comments are identified. (Right underneath is their website, email, and IP information.)
4. When I select, in your case, “marlajayne” – it opens the comment for me to edit it.
5. I have a toolbar on top from which I can select the bolding option, which is great because Ctr B does not work in this field.
6. I have tried creating spacer lines when responding to your posts, but I think that it is your template.
June 19, 2008 at 2:21 pm
Kip de Moll
great posts of inspirational choices! I also love the way you get all these great pics to speak exactly to your topic, each worth thousands of words.
The choice to change our life is frightening, and we don’t often understand that we have it. Only when you can reach inside and tune out the “shoulds” and “don’ts”, can you understand what is RIGHT of you. So hard, especially when that choice causes pain to loved ones…
hayden tompkins says:
Well, I can definitely tell you that her choice was a giant surprise, though I don’t think anyone outright disapproved.
June 19, 2008 at 2:34 pm
SanityFound
Oh I think this ode to your friend is incredible – sounds like you have some amazing people in your life, genuine people. They are both lucky to have you and you to have them
Out of interest is she in China? I’ve been looking into doing a similar thing seen as its the only time they’ll give me a visa otherwise I am a erm yeah… Hats off to your friend!
hayden tompkins says:
Korea. Close enough!
June 19, 2008 at 6:06 pm
Robert
Bravo, strong point, it is indeed this innermost passion that infuses our lives with juice. Without it the life is just an empty bag. So we should never let go of it and forget our dreams. It is, I guess, what Cowey calls “our voice”.
Thanks for reminding me of it. I will have a lot of time during this summer to dig deeper within myself for it and realign the focus of my life again.
hayden tompkins says:
Cowey?
June 20, 2008 at 9:59 am
Robert
Ooops, sorry, it’s Covey: The 8th Habith.
June 23, 2008 at 5:32 am
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