…especially when you don’t want to!

There are occasions when we feel the compelling urge to justify our actions.  When we want someone to be vested in our view of the universe.

But if someone told you to go kill your kids, you wouldn’t wrestle with coming up with reasons why you shouldn’t.  You just wouldn’t!

If someone told you you that you won the $68 million lotto jackpot, you wouldn’t agonize over whether you should go pick up the money.  More likely your response would be “where and how soon can I show up?”

When we find ourselves wrestling with a conflict and having to talk ourselves into doing (or not doing) something, then it often means that there is a hard choice we don’t want to make.

The most recent example of this, for me, is the situation with my brother.  I had a laundry list of reasons why I should be helping him, and I was very resistant to hearing any reasons why I shouldn’t.

Take notice of the times you feel defensive, coupled with the need to explain yourself.  Perhaps there is a choice that you don’t want to make or a choice that you know you shouldn’t be making.  Your feeling of defensiveness may be a red flag that you are getting in the way of yourself and your purpose!